The time will come,
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the others welcome.
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you.
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
Derek Walcott
Sunday, March 18, 2018
Thursday, March 8, 2018
these comfortable lies .......
The Lie is a solid and enduring form. It is much more harmful to humans than we give credit.
It divides us.
It separates us from ourselves and contaminates our relationship with the world.
By deceiving ourselves and hoping to deceive others about ourselves, we can no longer be whole hearted in our relationships.
When we lie, we are giving up the belief that we can be fully loved for who we are. We run from the truth of our life.
A lie begins as a thought; one of those very seductive thoughts.
A thought that arrives with promises of relief and safety in times of fear and confusion.
A thought that holds an immediate solution to a short term discomfort. The discomfort of telling the truth.
The thought needs to be shared to transform into a solid form.
As a thought it was harmless. It was air.
To tell a good lie you need to believe at least a spoonful of it. For the lie needs to be believable to serve it's purpose of keeping you hidden and separate. A good lie can accomplish this sense of safety.
But to tell an exceptional lie, one needs to fully believe it.
Some of our lies we hold close. We have so fully believed these creations that they become part of our identity and , of course, become the roots of new lies. The story grows, keeping you separate, but with the hope of being loved.
You have chosen comfort over truth. This is a very human thing to do.
Do these really comfortable lies now become the beliefs that shape our lives? Are all our beliefs about life and how to engage it, simply comfortable lies created to ward off fear and confusion? Are these comfortable lies, the beliefs that have been passed down from ancestor to ancestor both intentionally and unintentionally, with the loving intent to keep the children safe?
When we look deeply into our beliefs about our self and relationships, we may start to uncover these strategies that were nothing but an attempt to keep ourselves comfortable and safe.
It divides us.
It separates us from ourselves and contaminates our relationship with the world.
By deceiving ourselves and hoping to deceive others about ourselves, we can no longer be whole hearted in our relationships.
When we lie, we are giving up the belief that we can be fully loved for who we are. We run from the truth of our life.
A lie begins as a thought; one of those very seductive thoughts.
A thought that arrives with promises of relief and safety in times of fear and confusion.
A thought that holds an immediate solution to a short term discomfort. The discomfort of telling the truth.
The thought needs to be shared to transform into a solid form.
As a thought it was harmless. It was air.
To tell a good lie you need to believe at least a spoonful of it. For the lie needs to be believable to serve it's purpose of keeping you hidden and separate. A good lie can accomplish this sense of safety.
But to tell an exceptional lie, one needs to fully believe it.
Some of our lies we hold close. We have so fully believed these creations that they become part of our identity and , of course, become the roots of new lies. The story grows, keeping you separate, but with the hope of being loved.
You have chosen comfort over truth. This is a very human thing to do.
Do these really comfortable lies now become the beliefs that shape our lives? Are all our beliefs about life and how to engage it, simply comfortable lies created to ward off fear and confusion? Are these comfortable lies, the beliefs that have been passed down from ancestor to ancestor both intentionally and unintentionally, with the loving intent to keep the children safe?
When we look deeply into our beliefs about our self and relationships, we may start to uncover these strategies that were nothing but an attempt to keep ourselves comfortable and safe.
These stories hold no compassion for ourselves and the difficult decisions that we need to make everyday. They reinforce the belief that we "should" know and are not allowed to make mistakes. No ones life is perfect. Life manifests from the unique causes and conditions that are present in that moment of time. These conditions are not in our control. Mostly, they arrive uninvited.
When you stay open with the direct experience of life, accepting the swing from discomfort to dissatisfaction and understand that you are no different than others, you must be careful; you may start telling the truth about your life. You may find the forgiveness you need to love yourself fully.
Soon you will not be able to lie. Lying is not something that you have to “quit”.....it disappears when you start telling yourself the truth.
gassho
Norma
When you stay open with the direct experience of life, accepting the swing from discomfort to dissatisfaction and understand that you are no different than others, you must be careful; you may start telling the truth about your life. You may find the forgiveness you need to love yourself fully.
Soon you will not be able to lie. Lying is not something that you have to “quit”.....it disappears when you start telling yourself the truth.
gassho
Norma
Wednesday, March 7, 2018
May my heart be open to little birds....
may my heart be always open to little
birds who are the secrets of living
whatever they sing is better than to know
and if men should not hear them men are old.
may my mind stroll about hungry
and fearless and thirsty and supple
and even if it's sunday may I be wrong
for whenever men are right they are not young.
and may myself do nothing usefully
and love yourself more than truly
there's never been quite such a fool who could fail
pulling all the sky over him with a smile.
E.E. Cummings
birds who are the secrets of living
whatever they sing is better than to know
and if men should not hear them men are old.
may my mind stroll about hungry
and fearless and thirsty and supple
and even if it's sunday may I be wrong
for whenever men are right they are not young.
and may myself do nothing usefully
and love yourself more than truly
there's never been quite such a fool who could fail
pulling all the sky over him with a smile.
E.E. Cummings
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